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Can Any Good Thing Come From Pain?

Most of us will experience pain in our life time. Others, like me, will live with chronic pain. The way I see it, we have two choices – 1) Crawl into bed, pull the covers over your head and stay there until your pity party is over. 2) Decide to live in God’s grace and be an overcomer despite the pain. Afterall, God has great plans for you! – Romans 8:28

“God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”         – CS Lewis, The Problem of Pain

Is there value in walking through painful circumstances?                         I have learned the answer is YES! Here are a few reasons why:

  • We can learn to trust God – Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6
  • We can learn to obey God – Before I was afflicted I went astray, But now I keep Your word. Psalm 119:67
  • We can learn more about who God is – God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
  • We can become more mature in our faith – But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. James 1:4
  • We can be a blessing to others – Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 3-4

Pain is real, but so is Hope.

And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away. Rev 21:4
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Thank you, Lord, you are a present help in our afflictions.

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Piecing Together the Puzzle of Life

This past Christmas I received a jigsaw puzzle as a gift. It was not just another scene to connect, but 1,000 pieces of vintage jewelry overlapping one another. I was excited to get started. As a child, I had completed lots of puzzles, but it had been many years since I started a new one. As I connected the border pieces, I soon discovered the enormity of this puzzle. I started to question if I could finish it. At times I became overwhelmed. If fifteen minutes ticked by and I had not put one piece in place, I lost patience.

Sometimes our lives feel fragmented like disconnected puzzle pieces strewn across the table. Your obedience to God’s word forms the platform for the healing to begin. Forgiving someone who has hurt you nudges a key puzzle piece in place. Letting go of the past brings clarity to the process.

A timely piece properly placed by the Lord in the puzzle of your life acts like a foundation for the next piece. Trusting the Lord in a difficult situation slides another one into position as a beautiful picture of a restored heart takes shape.

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As the last piece completes the puzzle, a sense of peace rests upon your soul. Allow the Lord this day to take the pieces of your broken heart for He knows where each piece belongs to bring wholeness again.

Our purpose is to patiently trust the Lord to put each piece in its proper place. The end result is one that is dependent on Him.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. (Ecclesiastes 3:11a)

 

 

 

 

Thank you, Lord, for your plan and purpose in our lives. Help us to wait on your perfect timing.

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Unfixable in This Life

I can still hear the unwelcome words of my orthopedist, “Shattered beyond repair,” “But you’re a doctor – isn’t it your job to fix these broken bones?” I protested. “Surgery can fuse your bones together, but you will have to adapt to the way you walk.” At the time, I could not have imagined the ramification of what that would mean.

The year was 1978 when I first learned the truth – not all things will be fixable in this life. Some are physical, some emotional and others spiritual. But, here’s another truth; He is reaching out His hand to show us the way to victory.

Maybe we need to adapt our expectations and lean on God’s grace to help us through the unfixables in this life. We need to trust Him. We need to know He loves us no matter what happens in our lives.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.                                                                            Philippians 4:13

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.                                                              Romans 8:28

If God is for us, who can be against us?  Romans 8:31b

Orthopedic issues and challenges will most likely follow me the rest of my days on earth, but not for eternity. Heaven is my real home, my forever home. Jesus is waiting there for me. There will be no walkers or canes, and I will be able to walk, run, and dance in His presence. At last, what a glorious existence it will be!

Make me hear joy and gladness, That the bones You have broken may rejoice. Psalm 51:8  

Steady perseverance brings healing and establishes my purpose in Jesus’ plan for my life. Despite difficulties and disappointments, I know I will not lose heart as long as I fix my eyes on Jesus.

Hebrews 12:1-2 is a favorite Scripture of mine. Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith.

We live with brokenness and blessings, challenges and victories, sorrow and joy. They are all intertwined together. Allow the Lord to remove the strands of brokenness and sorrow from your life, and the blessings and joy will remain.

 

Thank you, Lord, that our afflictions are light and only for a time from the perspective of eternity.  

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Are You Among the Walking Wounded?

We have all experienced rejection in our lives. Rejection hurts, especially when it is emotional rejection. Rejection attacks our self-esteem, it chips away at our confidence, it breaks our heart. When we are mistreated an inner anger can express itself in rebellion, bitterness, hopelessness and other painful emotions.

We make promises to ourselves in order to protect our heart. Do either of these sound familiar? Nobody will ever tell me what to do again! I’ll never let anyone get close enough to hurt me again! The vows we make create blockages to inner healing.

Self-made walls become a defense system against anyone who may be able to hurt us. But God did not create us to be rejected. We are created to be accepted, loved and treasured. We are not defined by our past failures, disappointments or the rejection of others. One person’s rejection does not mean we are unlovable or that we are alone. Jesus experienced rejection. His love is unconditional and His acceptance is eternal. He has equipped us to forgive others and ourselves.

Isaiah 53:3 (NKJV)

He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.

We have a choice to make. What we do with the hurt and disappointments that we will encounter will either make us stronger in the Lord or we will become walking wounded. Every child of God has access to His grace, love, and comfort. How will you respond? The defining factor in victorious living is knowing God’s everlasting love for you.

 Romans 8:31 (NKJV)

What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?

 

Thank you, Lord, for your healing touch in our lives.

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Cleanse Me Lord That My Broken Bones Will Rejoice

Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.  Make me hear joy and gladness, That the bones You have broken may rejoice. Psalm 51:7-8 

King David felt the weight of his own sin and understood the path of repentance would open the door for God’s forgiveness.

Bones are the strength and framework of the body. At times God must figuratively or literally crush our bones in order to lead us from the path of sin.

This is my testimony – following a misguided search for love and acceptance, I found myself immersed in a biker gang. I was miserable and wanted to escape, but I was trapped. God in His mercy allowed me to become a victim in a biker gang war and made a way of escape for me.

The bullets from M16 rifles inflicted much pain and suffering. The bones in my arm and leg were crushed.  At first, I thought God was punishing me. In the long months in the hospital, my heart began to soften.

Like King David, I cried out to the Lord,  Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:10

Receiving the inward assurance of God’s forgiveness caused my bones to rejoice. I now dance with joy and gladness on weakened legs because my salvation has been restored.

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, A broken and a contrite heart— These, O God, You will not despise. Psalm 51:17

Thank you, Lord, for your forgiveness of sin and your restoration out of brokenness.

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Living a Restored Life in God’s Transforming Love

Among my mother’s keepsakes, I came upon a yellowed and torn article that blessed me abundantly. (author unknown)

broken vessels My daughter’s life reminds me of a beautiful vase that has been dropped and broken. When a broken vase is put back together properly, the cracks still show – like the scars in her life.

 At first, a fractured vase must be handled carefully until it has mended properly. After it has mended, the cracks of the fracture become less and less visible.  With the aging of the vase, new lines appear, and the fracture lines blend with the new lines – enhancing its beauty.

 To new people our daughter meets, the fractures in her life are not seen. They can’t believe they were ever there. To the prayer partners, the lines of God’s grace and love in her life have created new lines that have built faith and hope in their lives.

Do you fear you will never be able to let go of the brokenness in your life? Do you carry the burdens of hopelessness, pain, and sorrow?  Does shame and condemnation from your past hold you captive? You are not alone – God will meet you in your broken places.

The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and He saves those who have a contrite spirit. (Psalm 34:18)

The best way to heal a broken heart is to give God all the pieces. A contrite heart is one that is not led by self-will, but one that is obedient to the conviction of God’s word and is led by the Spirit of God. The Lord wants you to trust Him and develop a dependent spirit on Him. You will find rest and freedom in yielding a broken, contrite heart to be molded by the hand of God.

I was once devasted by the physical, mental and spiritual trauma in my life. Gently, the Lord opened my heart to the truth of His love, compassion, and grace. His transforming love overwhelmed my brokenness. Friend, you are not too broken, your past does not define you and you can be whole again.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

 

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Thank You, Lord, for your transforming love that heals my brokenness and restores my life with love, hope, and joy in your salvation.

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Does Time Heal All Wounds?

time-heals-all-wounds-1087107_640Time is a great healer…so we are told. If we experience a broken heart, let more time pass by and the pain will begin to subside…so we are told. Passing time can bury our hurt, our emotional pain can soften and the effects of physical pain can begin to dissipate over time. It is what we do during the timeframe that affects the quality of our lives.

Time alone can not simply heal anything. The following quote by Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy makes a lot of sense to me:

“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”

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If all we needed is more time to be healed, we probably would suffer from hope deferred and a heart that becomes sick. (Proverbs 13:12)

But there is hope because Jesus is the great healer. He may ask you to participate in your healing. Do you need to forgive someone? He may require further understanding of a situation where your heart was wounded. Whatever He is calling you to do, spend prayerful time in His healing presence. I’ve discovered the best way to heal a broken heart is to give God all the pieces.

Stand on these healing promises from the Lord:

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He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds. Ps 147:3

 

 

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“And now, Lord, what do I wait for? My hope is in You. Ps 39:7

 

Pray-ButtonThank you, Lord, for being such a complete healer. If we suffer from physical infirmities, you will give sufficient grace to the weak.

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The Keys to Forgiving Yourself

Are you still carrying the burden of shame, guilt, and condemnation from your past? In your mind are you replaying the foolishness of your prior decisions?       If this is you, then it is afd3e179afa73a6b279129f4fe046f4ftime to surrender and move towards forgiveness.

If you don’t learn how to forget former sins, you will always live in the past. Bitterness and guilt will continue to grow within you.

When you look in the mirror, do you love and accept the person that Christ made you to be, or do you see a broken person in need of forgiveness?

But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. 1 John 1:7

If you have repented of your sins, then you are forgiven. Take a minute and let that sink in. Realize the power of the work of the cross and the shed blood of Jesus. Your debt has been paid. God is able to forgive you, even when you can’t forgive yourself.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.                         2 Corinthians 5:17

Don’t associate your failures with the new creation you have become. Your past does not define you, but it contributes to who you are today. Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. Realize you did the best you could at the time considering the circumstances.

God knows your name, and He calls you His own. Here are just a few of the names He has given you:

  • Chosen (Colossians 3:12) cdf08e10c8ec744a88a0eb9d508d5436
  • Child (1 John 3:1)
  • Beloved (Deuteronomy 33:12)
  • Holy & Blameless          (Ephesians 1:4)
  • Friend ( John 15:15)
  • Daughter (2 Corinthians 6:18)
  • Heir (Romans 8:17)
  • Blessed (Psalm 65:4)
  • Redeemed (Ephesians 1:7)
  • Treasured Possession   (Deuteronomy 7:6)

Give yourself grace and move towards loving yourself. Begin to see how your Lord and Savior sees you!
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Thank you, Lord, for your precious shed blood that has paid for my sins. I am so grateful for your forgiveness and love towards me.

 

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Sharing the Truth of God’s Love Overwhelmed My Brokenness

I have one of those testimonies – you know the ones where people gasp as you are sharinbroken patchg it. For many years, I lived with the shame and condemnation of my past. I had to defend myself from the fiery darts thrown by many Christians.

A misguided search for love and acceptance led me into a world of drugs and life in a motorcycle gang. Caught up in a violent gang war, I became a victim of two gunshot wounds when a rival gang opened fire with M16 rifles. Within those few seconds, the crippling bullets forever changed my life.

In my determination to start a new life, I encountered the hope and healing of God’s transforming love. Often people would tell me, “You ought to write a book”. I always balked at the idea, after all; I’m not a writer. I wouldn’t know where to begin and the thought of it was overwhelming.

Eventually, I listened to the Lord’s conviction that it was His purpose for me to write the book. My testimony could help others discover the truth of God’s love. The Lord will restore what is broken and make a heart whole again.

My introduction to becoming a writer was literally a cry-out to the Lord, “Help me!” Although, it may not sound spiritual, this has been my heart’s cry with each new chapter. I reminded myself that the Lord would not call me without equipping me.

I searched the internet for writing resources and found helpful blogs and advice. I registered for my first Christian conference. To my delight I found a group of kindred hearts longing to be used by God through their writing and speaking. What a relief for this newbie writer to know much-needed help would be available along the way.

This was a lesson that Moses struggled with. Moses knew the Lord would use him to deliver the Israelites from the Egyptians, but he wanted to do it in his own way. Moses felt inadequate to deliver God’s people. He had tried once and failed. So God reassured him that He would give him the words to say.  (Exodus 4:10-12)

Moses now must see his mission from God’s perspective. He knows he is inadequate in his own strength. He knows that he alone cannot carry out God’s purpose. That is exactly where God wanted him, dependent on Him alone. He needed to trust the Lord to equip him.

Be attentive to God’s calling and leading in your life. You are never too young or too old to serve Him.

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Thank you Lord – It is an honor to trust you with your purpose for my life.

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Are You Willing to Give the Lord the Key to Your Heart?

key to my heartHave you spent too much time in the valleys of life? Wouldn’t you like to walk in the freedom of Christ? Jesus’ shed blood on the cross paid the price to set us free.

Scripture tells us in Psalm 44:21b, For He knows the secrets of the heart.” God wants you to surrender control of your heart. I know this to be true because Jesus waited patiently for me, drawing me close to Him, at times lovingly chastising me along the path to discovering true freedom.

There was a time my heart had become hardened from pain and brokenness. My heart was locked inside walls of sorrow. I kept it protected from future pain, and I vowed never to let anyone or anything hurt me again. But, the Lord required me to hand over the key to my heart. He wanted access to all the locked doors.

Healing is a process. At times, I felt shackled to the weight of my sin. Guilt, shame and condemnation separated me from God’s healing. A hardened heart cannot yield to God’s plan of redemption. Jeremiah 29:11 states, For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Your hope is secure in the Lord’s hands.

God knows the secrets of the heart Slowly, God’s light came into the wounded places bringing with it hope and healing. At times the healing was painful, but I was never alone. Jesus was with me and bringing me out of captivity one step at a time.

Firsthand, I experienced the Lord’s steadfast love and His compassionate heart. He healed my broken heart, one shattered piece at a time. All that was required of me was to trust Him with the key to my heart.

Pray-ButtonThank you Lord for your compassionate heart to bring healing and freedom into my life.

Has your heart become hardened as a result of life’s trials? What areas do you need to surrender to the Lord?

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