Category Archives: Shame

The Keys to Forgiving Yourself

Are you still carrying the burden of shame, guilt, and condemnation from your past? In your mind are you replaying the foolishness of your prior decisions?       If this is you, then it is afd3e179afa73a6b279129f4fe046f4ftime to surrender and move towards forgiveness.

If you don’t learn how to forget former sins, you will always live in the past. Bitterness and guilt will continue to grow within you.

When you look in the mirror, do you love and accept the person that Christ made you to be, or do you see a broken person in need of forgiveness?

But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. 1 John 1:7

If you have repented of your sins, then you are forgiven. Take a minute and let that sink in. Realize the power of the work of the cross and the shed blood of Jesus. Your debt has been paid. God is able to forgive you, even when you can’t forgive yourself.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.                         2 Corinthians 5:17

Don’t associate your failures with the new creation you have become. Your past does not define you, but it contributes to who you are today. Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. Realize you did the best you could at the time considering the circumstances.

God knows your name, and He calls you His own. Here are just a few of the names He has given you:

  • Chosen (Colossians 3:12) cdf08e10c8ec744a88a0eb9d508d5436
  • Child (1 John 3:1)
  • Beloved (Deuteronomy 33:12)
  • Holy & Blameless          (Ephesians 1:4)
  • Friend ( John 15:15)
  • Daughter (2 Corinthians 6:18)
  • Heir (Romans 8:17)
  • Blessed (Psalm 65:4)
  • Redeemed (Ephesians 1:7)
  • Treasured Possession   (Deuteronomy 7:6)

Give yourself grace and move towards loving yourself. Begin to see how your Lord and Savior sees you!
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Thank you, Lord, for your precious shed blood that has paid for my sins. I am so grateful for your forgiveness and love towards me.

 

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Sharing the Truth of God’s Love Overwhelmed My Brokenness

I have one of those testimonies – you know the ones where people gasp as you are sharinbroken patchg it. For many years, I lived with the shame and condemnation of my past. I had to defend myself from the fiery darts thrown by many Christians.

A misguided search for love and acceptance led me into a world of drugs and life in a motorcycle gang. Caught up in a violent gang war, I became a victim of two gunshot wounds when a rival gang opened fire with M16 rifles. Within those few seconds, the crippling bullets forever changed my life.

In my determination to start a new life, I encountered the hope and healing of God’s transforming love. Often people would tell me, “You ought to write a book”. I always balked at the idea, after all; I’m not a writer. I wouldn’t know where to begin and the thought of it was overwhelming.

Eventually, I listened to the Lord’s conviction that it was His purpose for me to write the book. My testimony could help others discover the truth of God’s love. The Lord will restore what is broken and make a heart whole again.

My introduction to becoming a writer was literally a cry-out to the Lord, “Help me!” Although, it may not sound spiritual, this has been my heart’s cry with each new chapter. I reminded myself that the Lord would not call me without equipping me.

I searched the internet for writing resources and found helpful blogs and advice. I registered for my first Christian conference. To my delight I found a group of kindred hearts longing to be used by God through their writing and speaking. What a relief for this newbie writer to know much-needed help would be available along the way.

This was a lesson that Moses struggled with. Moses knew the Lord would use him to deliver the Israelites from the Egyptians, but he wanted to do it in his own way. Moses felt inadequate to deliver God’s people. He had tried once and failed. So God reassured him that He would give him the words to say.  (Exodus 4:10-12)

Moses now must see his mission from God’s perspective. He knows he is inadequate in his own strength. He knows that he alone cannot carry out God’s purpose. That is exactly where God wanted him, dependent on Him alone. He needed to trust the Lord to equip him.

Be attentive to God’s calling and leading in your life. You are never too young or too old to serve Him.

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Thank you Lord – It is an honor to trust you with your purpose for my life.

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Are You Willing to Give the Lord the Key to Your Heart?

key to my heartHave you spent too much time in the valleys of life? Wouldn’t you like to walk in the freedom of Christ? Jesus’ shed blood on the cross paid the price to set us free.

Scripture tells us in Psalm 44:21b, For He knows the secrets of the heart.” God wants you to surrender control of your heart. I know this to be true because Jesus waited patiently for me, drawing me close to Him, at times lovingly chastising me along the path to discovering true freedom.

There was a time my heart had become hardened from pain and brokenness. My heart was locked inside walls of sorrow. I kept it protected from future pain, and I vowed never to let anyone or anything hurt me again. But, the Lord required me to hand over the key to my heart. He wanted access to all the locked doors.

Healing is a process. At times, I felt shackled to the weight of my sin. Guilt, shame and condemnation separated me from God’s healing. A hardened heart cannot yield to God’s plan of redemption. Jeremiah 29:11 states, For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Your hope is secure in the Lord’s hands.

God knows the secrets of the heart Slowly, God’s light came into the wounded places bringing with it hope and healing. At times the healing was painful, but I was never alone. Jesus was with me and bringing me out of captivity one step at a time.

Firsthand, I experienced the Lord’s steadfast love and His compassionate heart. He healed my broken heart, one shattered piece at a time. All that was required of me was to trust Him with the key to my heart.

Pray-ButtonThank you Lord for your compassionate heart to bring healing and freedom into my life.

Has your heart become hardened as a result of life’s trials? What areas do you need to surrender to the Lord?

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A Quiet Refuge of Compassion

Be kind and compassionateA kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal – Steve Maraboli

“Alone in a hospital bed in Baton Rouge, I lay in a cocoon of plaster, restraining my body in the hope of repairing my shattered bones. My hospital room was a quiet refuge from the physical and emotional trauma I had suffered at the hands of a rival biker m16gang. I was a victim in a violent gang war, enduring intense pain after being shot in my left arm and right leg with M-16 rifles.”

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A Quiet Refuge is my story of the life-giving support that I experienced from the comforting hands and benevolent heart of an incredible nurse named Reni. Thirty-eight years later and thousands of miles apart, I am still so grateful for her many acts of kindness. She taught me that compassion towards others can restore hope and give strength to the weak. We only spent a couple of months together, yet we formed a bond of friendship that continues to this day.

During the time of my suffering in the hospital, consumed with shame and condemnation, I felt abandoned and unloved. Reni’s compassionate acts proved to be a reminder of God’s love for me. Her selfless actions demonstrated her strong desire to alleviate my suffering. And isn’t that at the heart of compassion…the essence of feeling another’s pain, while easing their hurt.

The Lord calls us to compassion – Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous. 1 Peter 3:8 (NJKV)

Pray-ButtonThank you Lord for your heart of compassion. May we be sensitive to share the hope and encouragement that your love brings to others in need.

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Shame is not Welcome Here

shame Shame is a painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, or ridiculous; done by oneself or another. Often times shame is placed on someone by another person’s judgement of them. Shame no longer has a foothold when forgiveness is allowed to complete its restoring work. Shameful thoughts must flee when forgiveness comes in like a flood. 

Here’s some idioms about shame: perhaps, some of these have been directed towards you.  Shame on You (you should feel embarrassed by something you have done), Crying Shame (a very unfortunate situation), Tell the Truth and Shame the Devil (to tell the truth even though you have strong reasons for concealing it), Fool me Once, Shame on you; Fool me twice, Shame on me (after being tricked once, one should be wary, so that the person cannot trick you again).

dogs-dog-shaming1We laugh over dog shaming photos; why would we want to humiliate our furry friends? Yes, dogs do some foolish things, but don’t we all? Let us not let our judgements result in hurtful feelings for others.

 Judge not, that you be not judged. Matthew 7:1 (NJKV)

Whatever pain and shame you may be carrying, you can trust that the Lord is big enough to restore your soul. He will come in the midst of your mess and lovingly enlarge your heart to forgive those who hurt you and to give you strength to forgive yourself.

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There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. Romans 8:1 (NKJV)

Prayer Father, thank you for your restoring love that sets me free from shame and condemnation. Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (NJKV) Amen.

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